Hearing the ‘life-light’
When is the last time you looked into a person’s eyes and saw forever? Someone once said that the eyes are the windows to one’s personality. If this is so, why are we so afraid to scrutinize each other?
For some, the word scrutinize carries the negative connotation of prying or judging. That’s because we have become guarded, and anything which implies a thorough search is automatically avoided.
On the average day, we may encounter no fewer than two hundred pairs of eyes. The eyes we encounter first are generally those closest to us – spouses, lovers, children. Then we meet our colleagues, friends and people at the fast food counter. How many of them did you really look at?
Eyes are the windows to an inner storage area, the place where life experiences are carefully compiled and retained. Those who dare to look will recognize much of themselves in the eyes of others. Friendliness, honesty, humor. They might also see things they’d rather not – hurt, jealousy, distrust, even hatred. It’s not necessary, however, to focus solely on the negative. The positive can be seen too, if we learn to scrutinize properly.
The first step is to find the person’s life-light. A singular spark that each of us possesses. Even for a beginner, it’s not uncommon to discover four or five life-lights in a day. Some are dimmer than others; some will be difficult to detect. The more you develop this skill, the greater your success rate will be.
A stranger can sense when his or her life-light has been found. The reaction might be a curious glance, a wink, or just as often, a smile.
If time and circumstance permit, look deeper and you may be surprised what happens next. Like a gracious host, this person will begin to guide you toward deeper discovery.
After the initial exchange, communication can develop further into kindness, gratitude, warmth, sharing. How far you choose to take it is irrelevant at this stage. What’ important is that the human craving for recognition has been met.
Some may prefer to try this with a loved one. If you are having problems at home, looking for the life-light is an excellent way to begin resolving those problems. No words or physical contact are required. Simply sit across from one another and look into each other’s eyes. Scrutinize, but gently and with patient curiosity. Search for the positive, knowing that it’s there. Eventually the eyes will draw you inward, beneath the layers of hurt and anger. You will see the gifts that your loved one possesses. And if you are truly open, you can literally hear the eyes guiding. They will have a story to tell, so listen to what you see. It’s the tenderest of sounds, coming from your loved one’s very soul.
Whether you choose to draw close or stay distant is always your choice. But after you’ve seen your first life-light, you will never be able to pass others as casually as you once did. That single stimulation will leave you craving for more, and provide you with an amazing ability to see forever.