The unravelling
Have you ever wondered what really happens when someone you know has been damaged by abuse?
Be it internally or externally, alcohol/drugs or someone inflicting physical/mental abuse. The resulting damage to that person takes on a diminishing form like pulling an unraveling thread of their life’s tapestry.
Instead of forward and positive growth, the person or victim silently, but deliberately, starts self-destructing. It slowly eats away from the inside out.
Over many years, that self destruction takes the form on an unending reflex, all negative. As a wolf must devour life and also satisfy it’s unending lust for blood and death, so to does the damaged person stealthily become a predator that most cannot and do not easily see.
To most around that person, at work, school, church, social functions, this cunning predator seems positive, trustworthy, happy and the very best a friend can be.
To the one very close to the damaged victim (usually a loved one), another form on a regular basis will rear it’s hateful, resentful head toward getting their sweet quenching satisfaction by bashing either physically or verbally those so close and vulnerable. The new victim has been chosen and has no where to hide.
The cycle is like a daisy chain. Just as the wolf must sate it’s undeniable reflex and appetite to strike again and cause pain, so too does the now shredded tapestry of the damaged person lash out once again.
For one to think that this condition can be easily repaired is like attempting to make the wolf become a vegetarian. If enough cycles are inflicted on the loved one that is within striking distance, they too will become bitten by the negative desire to lash out because of receiving so much pain and anguish, so many times.
We learn from repetition. So much so that given the experience enough times turns it into an instant reflex.
They say that for us to learn and never forget, a repetition of six times will do the job. Why, that’s how we learned the “times table”, didn’t we. Watch a TV commercial and count the number of times in the sixty second spot that the product name is mentioned. It will be a minimum of six times.
Tapestry unraveling or inflicted damage is no different. If not abandoned, it will eat away your very essence of life. You will be left feeling hollow and empty. This is an energy drain of the worst kind.
An observation for the wise. Avoid the wolf bite. Tapestry repair can only come from inside of you. That’s where your powerful nucleus awaits your beckoning and is there in great abundance. Seek professional help.
If this is what you wish to achieve, than you have already begun the healing process. Your tapestry will allow itself to reweave back to the perfect shape it was.
I’ll leave you with a story to ponder.
A person was walking down the road on beautiful sun filled morning. On the road was a snake. The snake said “pick me up and hold me”. The person said, “no, you will bite me if I do”. The snake said quickly, “I won’t bite you”.
So the person picked up the snake and immediately the snake bit. The person said, “yikes, you told me you wouldn’t bite me!” The snake said, “I am a snake aren’t I?"
May your tapestry end up with all the colours of the rainbow radiating it’s beauty for all to see. It is yours to have if you choose to want it.